FIGHTING WITH PARENTS?

The clothes we wear. The food we eat. Where we go and how we get there. Who the people we hang with.What do these thing in common, you are asking? They are just few examples of many hundreds of things that our parents controlled for us when we were a child. As a kid you did not have to say in very much that went on; our parents made decisions about everything from the thing we should eat to the pajamas we wore at night. And it is a good thing, us kids need this kind of protection and assistance, because we aren't mature enough to take care of ourselves and make careful decisions on our own. But eventually kids can grow up and become teens. And part of being teen is developing our own identity,one that is separate from the identities of our parents. It is totally normal us teens to create our own opinions, thoughts and values about life, it is what prepares us for adulthood.
But as we change and grow into this new person who makes his own decisions, our parents may have difficult time adjusting. They are nt used to the new you yet- they only know us as a kid who had everything decided for him and did not mind.
It is adjustment that can cause a lot of fighing bet. parents and teens. We teens get angry because we feel our parents dont respect us and arent giving us space to do what we like, and parents get angry because they arent used to not in being control.
It is easy for feelings to get hurt when there are conflicts like these. And more complicated issues can cause even bigger arguments, because ou parents will always be intent in protecting us and keeping us safe, no matter how old we are.
The good news about fighting with our parents is that the arguing will lessen as our parents get more comfortable with the idea that us teen has the right to certain opinions and an identity that may diff. from theirs. It can take several years for our parents and us teens to adjust our new roles, in the meantime, concentrate in communicating with our parents as best as we can.
Sometimes this can feel impossible , like they just do not see our point of view and never will. But talking and expressing our opinions can help us gain more respect from our parents and we may able to reach compromises that make everyone happy.
Keep in mind , too, that our parents were teens once and that in most cases, they can relate to what were going through.



I love my parents even though there are fig-things bet us...

I love you mom